The controversial but honest truth about weddings

Amazingly, my husband and I have been married almost 5 months now – the time has flown by!! If I think back to 5 months before our big day, we were frantically packing, licking and sticking the seals on our invitation envelopes and getting them in the post. It was also around that time that LLLM began!!

Anyway.

Having had 5 months to process, analyse and evaluate our wedding, I thought I’d give you my ‘wedding truths’. Be prepared for somewhat controversial honesty from someone who literally has the t-shirt…

You will NEVER please everyone with the choices you make. Whether its the seating plan, guest list, food choice or the lack of a free bar, someone will be miffed. And they will try and make you feel guilty for it, force their experiences/beliefs/thoughts onto you. This happened so many times for us; bridesmaid dresses, top table seating, wedding cake, hen do… and that’s just a few off the top of my head! Some things we managed to dig our heels in and fend off other people’s opinions, but other things we were railroaded into decisions we wouldn’t necessarily have agreed with. I guess what you have to accept, is that the wedding is the joining of two families and so you have to take on a little bit of what the main players in those groups say, especially if they are contributing financially or with their time. But it is frustrating.

Your wedding day is the best day of your life, but it is also the weirdest, most stressful and busy day. I was pretty relaxed in the morning of my wedding day; getting ready was stress-free, there was no rushing about and our makeup and hair ladies were fab and had us ready in plenty of time. It wasn’t until the hour before that things started getting crazy – getting into your dress takes longer than it did in the shop when you tried it on if your family are helping you, especially with a lace up dress so make sure you leave yourself enough time – an hour if you can (so you can take photos too). Incidentally, it also takes longer if your mother decides SHE needs to freshen up when you have 15 mins till the big reveal and you’re in your bridal suite on  your own in your undies waiting.. but that’s another story!!. Then  it suddenly hits you as you’re waiting to walk into the ceremony room and you hear the registrar say ‘can you all stand for the entrance of the bride’… OMG I’M ABOUT TO GET MARRIED IN FRONT OF ALL THESE PEOPLE pops into your head – cue either manic smile or sudden floods of tears (I had the latter). Then there is the constant hugging of EVERYONE, even people you have never met before (a lovely but odd experience), and your jaw HURTS from all that smiling. I actually did mouth-stretching exercises part way through the night when I popped up to our room for a 5 min break as I felt like I’d been chewing a really hard chewy sweet for hours because I’d been smiling SO much.

Despite speaking to everyone, you don’t actually have the time to TALK to everyone. You answer the same questions about 50 times (especially when evening guests arrive) but you don’t actually get to have a proper conversation with anyone as you’re constantly checking on your guests and doing the rounds to make sure that everyone has been greeted and has a drink etc.

Your day might not be what you expected/wanted it to be. Our ceremony was great, the food was REALLY well recieved by all our guests, our speeches went down well, but if I’m honest, I was slightly disappointed by our evening reception. There was a lot of no-shows and people didn’t bring their kids even after RSVP’ing that they’d come. A lot of our guests hadn’t seen each other for years and so they used our wedding as an opportunity to chat and catch up, which meant at some points through the night the dancefloor was a bit empty. This upset me on the evening as I’d never been to a wedding where it wasn’t packed on the dancefloor, but now I’ve had a chance to reflect, I’m glad our families got a chance to chat and catch up, as its very rare they see each other. Our DIY photobooth wasn’t used as much as we’d have liked too, though I think this was more to do with where we positioned it, so that was our fault really.

If using external suppliers/companies, you do get what you pay for. Our photographer who was a family member’s friend, took over 400 photos, but of these, there are only a handful that I love or am really happy with. Many of the issues I pick at with them, are silly rookie mistakes; things like having the venue’s cars in the background of photos, inconsistent and odd angles of photos and missed opportunities. I’m sure if we paid for a more experienced photographer the quality of the photos would have been better.

Don’t get me wrong, I loved our big day and I’m so proud of how it turned out after all the hard work we put into it, but planning a wedding IS a very stressful time as the day ends up not really being about you and your partner; its about keeping everyone else happy. Remember to take time out away from wedding planning, and line up a project for you to undertake after the wedding so you don’t have a massive void after the lead up to the big day!

And finally, being married is FAB!!!!!

NEW on Live, Laugh, Love, Marriage!

Now my wedding report is finished (though check out tomorrow’s article about my tips & hints), we have something new starting on LLLM!

We will still be featuring other Real Weddings and showcasing great suppliers as we did before, but from now on Tuesdays will be renamed as ‘Tip Tuesday’ as we will be sharing wisdom from married ladies to help you along the way! We will also be putting together themed mood boards to give you inspiration, and finding the best deals online and on the high street for you to take advantage of!

Plus my wedding journey isn’t over just yet! I still haven’t done our photo album (more on that another time) and we have our honeymoon coming up in May which we are REALLY looking forward to!!

And remember, please get in touch! I love hearing from brides and I will help out where I can with planning and ideas. I still have loads of planning files on my computer that I’m more than happy to share, as well as stationery/sign templates!

Lots of love

xxx

Happy Valentines Day!

I’d like to wish all of my readers and followers (and your other halves!) a very Happy Valentines Day!!!

It is my first Valentines Day as a wife and it was so nice to receive a ‘To my WIFE’ card from my husband this morning!! We don’t go all out on Valentines Day usually, and this year will be no exception – we’re getting a takeaway this evening and just relaxing on the sofa in front of the tv with our puppies.

Big hugs and kisses to you all!! xxx

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