The controversial but honest truth about weddings

Amazingly, my husband and I have been married almost 5 months now – the time has flown by!! If I think back to 5 months before our big day, we were frantically packing, licking and sticking the seals on our invitation envelopes and getting them in the post. It was also around that time that LLLM began!!

Anyway.

Having had 5 months to process, analyse and evaluate our wedding, I thought I’d give you my ‘wedding truths’. Be prepared for somewhat controversial honesty from someone who literally has the t-shirt…

You will NEVER please everyone with the choices you make. Whether its the seating plan, guest list, food choice or the lack of a free bar, someone will be miffed. And they will try and make you feel guilty for it, force their experiences/beliefs/thoughts onto you. This happened so many times for us; bridesmaid dresses, top table seating, wedding cake, hen do… and that’s just a few off the top of my head! Some things we managed to dig our heels in and fend off other people’s opinions, but other things we were railroaded into decisions we wouldn’t necessarily have agreed with. I guess what you have to accept, is that the wedding is the joining of two families and so you have to take on a little bit of what the main players in those groups say, especially if they are contributing financially or with their time. But it is frustrating.

Your wedding day is the best day of your life, but it is also the weirdest, most stressful and busy day. I was pretty relaxed in the morning of my wedding day; getting ready was stress-free, there was no rushing about and our makeup and hair ladies were fab and had us ready in plenty of time. It wasn’t until the hour before that things started getting crazy – getting into your dress takes longer than it did in the shop when you tried it on if your family are helping you, especially with a lace up dress so make sure you leave yourself enough time – an hour if you can (so you can take photos too). Incidentally, it also takes longer if your mother decides SHE needs to freshen up when you have 15 mins till the big reveal and you’re in your bridal suite on  your own in your undies waiting.. but that’s another story!!. Then  it suddenly hits you as you’re waiting to walk into the ceremony room and you hear the registrar say ‘can you all stand for the entrance of the bride’… OMG I’M ABOUT TO GET MARRIED IN FRONT OF ALL THESE PEOPLE pops into your head – cue either manic smile or sudden floods of tears (I had the latter). Then there is the constant hugging of EVERYONE, even people you have never met before (a lovely but odd experience), and your jaw HURTS from all that smiling. I actually did mouth-stretching exercises part way through the night when I popped up to our room for a 5 min break as I felt like I’d been chewing a really hard chewy sweet for hours because I’d been smiling SO much.

Despite speaking to everyone, you don’t actually have the time to TALK to everyone. You answer the same questions about 50 times (especially when evening guests arrive) but you don’t actually get to have a proper conversation with anyone as you’re constantly checking on your guests and doing the rounds to make sure that everyone has been greeted and has a drink etc.

Your day might not be what you expected/wanted it to be. Our ceremony was great, the food was REALLY well recieved by all our guests, our speeches went down well, but if I’m honest, I was slightly disappointed by our evening reception. There was a lot of no-shows and people didn’t bring their kids even after RSVP’ing that they’d come. A lot of our guests hadn’t seen each other for years and so they used our wedding as an opportunity to chat and catch up, which meant at some points through the night the dancefloor was a bit empty. This upset me on the evening as I’d never been to a wedding where it wasn’t packed on the dancefloor, but now I’ve had a chance to reflect, I’m glad our families got a chance to chat and catch up, as its very rare they see each other. Our DIY photobooth wasn’t used as much as we’d have liked too, though I think this was more to do with where we positioned it, so that was our fault really.

If using external suppliers/companies, you do get what you pay for. Our photographer who was a family member’s friend, took over 400 photos, but of these, there are only a handful that I love or am really happy with. Many of the issues I pick at with them, are silly rookie mistakes; things like having the venue’s cars in the background of photos, inconsistent and odd angles of photos and missed opportunities. I’m sure if we paid for a more experienced photographer the quality of the photos would have been better.

Don’t get me wrong, I loved our big day and I’m so proud of how it turned out after all the hard work we put into it, but planning a wedding IS a very stressful time as the day ends up not really being about you and your partner; its about keeping everyone else happy. Remember to take time out away from wedding planning, and line up a project for you to undertake after the wedding so you don’t have a massive void after the lead up to the big day!

And finally, being married is FAB!!!!!

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DIY Confetti

SO many people ask me about my confetti… So much so that I like to think of myself as the ‘DIY confetti queen’!

I made all the confetti for my wedding (and enough for someone else’s wedding too) and it turned out great! I mainly used rose petals, but any petals I could get my hands on I added to the collection. There’s loads of tutorials online about how to make confetti, but I think my way is the easiest and quickest. If you have a microwave you can do it too!

Step 1: Pull all the petals off the flower. If its mouldy or badly bruised then throw it out, but petals that are just ‘on the turn’ are fine – you DONT have to use fresh ones!! Flowers that are coming to the end of their shelf life are fine – you are cooking them afterall.

Step 2: Get a microwaveable plate, a piece of kitchen roll and spread the petals out evenly across the paper. It doesn’t matter if some overlap, but don’t pile it on or it’ll take longer to cook.

Step 3: Bake! I put mine in for one minute to start with, then check it, then give it as many 30 second bursts you think necessary till all the moisture is out of them. If they aren’t completely dry, when you store them they’ll go mouldy and cause the rest of your confetti to rot – not good after all your hard work!

Step 4: Once they’re moisture-free and cool, store them in an airtight container with a piece of kitchen roll to keep them fresh and smelling great!!

Some people like to put theirs in the airing cupboard once baked, but I didn’t; I kept mine in an airtight container in a cool, dry and dark place and even though I starting making my confetti at least 18 months before my wedding, it smelt amazing on our big day!!

If you have any questions feel free to message me!!

G is for… Garter!

I didn’t wear a garter on my wedding day, but that’s not to say I don’t like them. In fact, there’s some REALLY beautiful ones out there.

I chose not to wear a garter for a number of reasons; firstly, I have chubby legs and I felt it wouldn’t be very flattering! Secondly, I didn’t want to do the traditional garter shot (for the same reason!). Thirdly, my dress was so big and restrictive that I felt if it needed rearranging if it got uncomfortable or started slipping, that I wouldn’t actually be able to do anything about it because my dress would be in the way. And lastly, if I had have bought one, I’d have wanted one that’d match our theme and that would require it being designed for me (not many people require woodland themed garters on the high street!) and that would have been expensive. I didn’t want to buy something that I wasn’t 100% on wearing so I decided to take that worry away and not have one at all.

However, I really like these…

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Cute!

We’ve been married 3 months!

Today is our three month wedding anniversary!!

I cannot believe how quickly it is has gone; our big day seems like ages ago – plus, we’re now closer to our honeymoon in Sicily than we are to our wedding day!! Crazy!!

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Married life is great. I said to my friend recently when she was in a stress about her wedding, that crossing over to the ‘other side’ is AMAZING – all the pressure is released and you feel normal again. There’s no worries about organising things (and organising other people!), you have friends/sisters/cousins instead of Bridesmaids again, and issues with the wedding that seem massive at the time seem like nothing at all now!

Getting married is FAB!!